“We may ignore, but we can nowhere evade the presence of God. The world is crowded with Him. He walks everywhere incognito.”
What is Spiritual Direction? Is it right for me?
I honestly could say that anyone who is seeking growth in their spiritual life could try Spiritual direction. Spiritual direction is a non-judegmental space to explore your spiritual life and relationship with your Higher Power. Spiritual direction is holistic in the sense that it doesn't just look at your most intimate relationships, career, family dynamics, but we also look at your spiritual life. If you have been seeking the spiritual life long enough, you know that life often entails times of spiritual uncertainty where we find ourselves in situations in which we are confused about what God is doing in our circumstances. Spiritual direction is a safe place to explore your relationship with your higher power with all the good, the bad and the ugly….this includes ones’ questions, desires, disappointments, and concerns, about ones’ life with God.
A Spiritual director helps individuals to notice God’s presence and activity along the way, as well as your personal reactions and responses as you are seeking to grow into your true self. In individual Spiritual direction you meet in a confidential, safe setting as you share about your spiritual history and what is currently going on in your life. A spiritual director is there to help in the soul care needs of the indivul and to help that individual grow as he or she actively engages in their growth and formation. Some individuals have a spiritual director for a specific time in their life or others have a spiritual director throughout their life. I personally have had a spiritual director for 11 years.
Sorting through one's spiritual life may seem elusive for many believers. Our daily experience often does not feel like what we ultimately desire it to be. We are isolated in the secrets of our hearts that remain in unhealthy family dynamics that cause us pain, disappointments in relationships, and unresolved feelings about ourseelves.. Many times we feel as though we want more with God and we want to grow more personally but don’t know what to do with this desire. A spiritual director can help break down the barriers that keep us in stagnant waters. As a spiritual director, I believe the ultimate goal of spiritual direction is learning to grow in what ancient fathers of the past call “the double knowledge,” thus come to know your true self and come to know more of the true God.
The author Dallas Willard liked to recall that all humans "undergo a process of spiritual formation. Their spirit is formed, and with it their whole being. Spiritual formation is not something just for especially religious. No one escapes. You have had a spiritual formation and I have had one, and it is still ongoing." You see we all have something immaterial that is being formed within us, our soul. It is either being formed towards openess, goodness, generosity, love or it is being formed in other ways. We have the ability to choose how to form our souls, and spiritual direction is a wonderful place to discuss this formational process we are all undergoing whether or not we are conscious of it all the time. Willard recalls, "In one of C. S. Lewis’s more striking passages, he challenges us to remember that the dullest and most uninteresting person you talk to am one day be a creature which, if you saw it now, you would be strongly tempted to worship, or else a horror and a corruption such as you now meet, if at all, only in a nightmare…there are no ordinary people. You have never talked to mere mortal. Nations, cultures, arts, cvilations- these are mortal and there life is to ours as the life of a gnat. But it is immortals whom we joke with, marry, snub, and exploit- immortal horrors or everlasting splendors.”