WHAT THE HECK IS SPIRITUAL FORMATION
The author Dallas Willard liked to recall that all humans "undergo a process of spiritual formation. Their spirit is formed, and with it their whole being. Spiritual formation is not something just for especially religious. No one escapes. You have had a spiritual formation and I have had one, and it is still ongoing." You see we all have something immaterial that is being formed within us, our soul. It is either being formed towards openess, goodness, generosity, love or it is being formed in other ways. We have the ability to choose how to form our souls, and Counseling, Spiritual Direction and Life Coaching are a wonderful place to discuss this formational process we are all undergoing whether or not we are conscious of it all the time. Willard recalls, "In one of C. S. Lewis’s more striking passages, he challenges us to remember that the dullest and most uninteresting person you talk to one day be a creature which, if you saw it now, you would be strongly tempted to worship, or else a horror and a corruption such as you now meet, if at all, only in a nightmare…there are no ordinary people. You have never talked to mere mortal. Nations, cultures, arts, cvilations- these are mortal and there life is to ours as the life of a gnat. But it is immortals whom we joke with, marry, snub, and exploit- immortal horrors or everlasting splendors.”
Spiritual Direction… Is it right for me?
I honestly could say that anyone who is seeking growth in their spiritual life could try Spiritual direction. Spiritual direction is a non-judegmental space to explore your spiritual life and relationship with God. Spiritual direction is holistic in the sense that it doesn't just look at your most intimate relationships, career, family dynamics, but we also look at your every aspect of your life because we are spiritual beings. If you have been seeking the spiritual life long enough, you know that life often entails times of spiritual uncertainty where we find ourselves in situations in which we are confused about what God is doing in our circumstances. Spiritual direction is a safe place to explore your relationship with your higher power with all the good, the bad and the ugly….this includes ones’ questions, desires, disappointments, and concerns, about ones’ life with God. Our daily experience often does not feel like what we ultimately desire it to be. We are isolated in the secrets of our hearts that remain in unhealthy family dynamics that cause us pain, disappointments in relationships, and unresolved feelings about ourselves.. Many times we feel as though we want more and we want to grow more personally but don’t know what to do. A spiritual director can help break down the barriers that keep us stuck.
My approach to life coaching is different than other approaches in that I understand the psychology behind growth and healing. In doing my Masters in Marriage and Family Therapy and Masters in Spiritual Formation and Soul Care, I have gained insight into what creates true steady shifts in our lives. As a coach, it’s my heart to help you not only attain a goal, but discover what you desire and how you can get there. However, the typical ‘be strong and empowered approach’ I don’t think produces lasting results. Many times in order to truly change a behavior we have to go down before we can go up. I will help you look at what your resistant to changing in so you can actually grow and attain goals from a place of more freedom.